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These pages are for you to share with others your experiences of loss due to young sudden cardiac death. If you would like your thoughts to be included in this section of the website, please email your words, photos / images, songs, videos and poems to mystory@c-r-y.org.uk or post them to the CRY office (if requested, photos will be returned via Recorded Delivery).

   

Adam Donnelly
Our 17 year old son Adam died suddenly on 30th July 2004.  That is the day my life changed forever.
 

We were on holiday in Cyprus with a group of friends – the day had started normally with breakfast and then down to the pool where we sat chatting for a while.  My husband Jed, daughter Sian and I decided we wanted to go snorkelling in a lovely bay about 10 minutes walk away but Adam decided he would prefer to stay behind.  Just before we’d left, I and another friend had been discussing teenage boys and how they can be with their mums – I said that Adam was always up for a kiss and hug – I’d given him a big kiss on the cheek and said “I love you” – he replied with his usual embarrassed “get off me!” but was smiling all the same!  That was the last thing I said to him.  more

   

James Byers
My name is Teresa Byers, I am the mother of four boys, with a broken heart. On 9th February 2000 our world came tumbling down.  Our 3rd son James, who was being treated for Wolf Parkinson White, dropped dead in school at the age of 7.  The teachers worked non-stop to revive him until the medics came and they took over working on him to bring him back.

The sad thing is he did not want to come back, his heart stopped suddenly as if someone switched off a light and they never got any rhythm from shocking him or resuscitation.  He was taken to casualty and they continued working on him throughout the journey and in hospital. I was at work when I got the message he had taken ill, but mum's seem to know - well I did.  He wasn't sick, he was gone, I could feel it through my whole body.  more

   

Nicholas Thomas
I was in a deep sleep and somewhere in my dream I could hear a phone ringing. It took a while for me to comprehend it was the bedside phone.  The clock on the bed side table said 2:00am. As soon as I picked up the phone I heard my brother’s trembling voice saying “He has gone”. 

 

It has always worried me that I never asked him who he was talking about and how I instantly knew who he was referring to. He was unable to give any details.

 

Our son Nicholas died suddenly at the wheel of his car while waiting for the traffic lights to change on the 13th January 2005 at 10:00pm.  Nicholas was 25 and the eldest of our two children. His sister Natasha was 9 years younger.  more

   

Sarah Anne Bennett
Our beautiful, vivacious daughter Sarah, whom we cherished and adored, was born on 10th October 1987.  She was born breach and four weeks early when my waters broke. We took her home a week later and that night had the worst storms in years. 

 

Sarah celebrated her 22nd birthday in October. She was a legal secretary and had just started a new job in London after being out of work for a year.

 

Sarah was a very happy child, always laughing and smiling and we called her “Angel”. She loved primary school where she excelled and was a very popular girl with the other children and teachers.  more

   

Paul Mulford

BETWEEN THOSE SMILES

The look of mischief
The smile disguising the next naughty move
The unread tale:
Books, cuddles.... too boring!
You understood: life was for living, exploring.
You rushed at life, running first, never walking.  more
   

James Johnsen
We had no idea that James would leave us at such an early age. He had gone out Christmas shopping to Newcastle with his brother Leon and planned to meet up with friends in a bar later in the afternoon. 

 

When James arrived he ordered a drink but told his brother he was feeling dizzy and began to make his way outside.  Leon followed him to ask if he was alright and in that brief moment James collapsed in his arms showing signs of a heart attack.

 

Paramedics arrived within a few short minutes but it was too late and James was announced dead on arrival at the hospital.  more

   

Martyn Luckett
Our youngest son Martyn went to live with his sister in Swindon, whilst we lived in North Devon. He was 19 years old and one of three children - Nick was the eldest, Charlotte the middle (and only daughter) and Martyn. 

 

The elder two knew exactly what they wanted to do, though Martyn did not know and was different - but he was still my baby!

 

Martyn had been living with Charlotte for four months.  They got along very well but he decided that he missed his friends back home and wanted to move back.  He had returned from a week's holiday to Swindon, and on the Saturday he and Charlotte did a Fun Run for the neighbours' children's school.  more

   

Peter Dean Button
Until the 26th July 2007 as a family we had a lovely life. On the 27th July 2007 it came to an end. Our lovely, fit and healthy son died. It would have been about 5.30am in bed with our daughter-in-law at his side. Peter Jnr was 37.

 

The destruction and devastation this caused I often wonder how we are still standing. Our daughter-in-law Helen, our daughter Susie, my husband Peter Snr and myself all just wanted to go with Peter Jnr.

 

Our daughter stopped eating, as her brother could no longer eat, our daughter-in-law just ate edges of toast, all of us lost so much weight.  more

   

Matthew 'Love' Bradley
How do I begin? How can any mother start to recount the most awful day of her life?  It has taken me nearly three years to begin to come to terms with our sad loss. 

 

It began on March 27th 2007, which just happened to be my birthday.  The day began with usual birthday wishes and cards, etc - but the everyday chores take over and I had to drive Matt into college.  He was studying 3D graphic design at our local college, I won’t pretend he was a perfect student - there were days when he didn’t want to go - but we have all been there with work. So in general he would frame himself and get back on task.

 

This particular morning, he woke and complained of having a headache, but not wanting to be too soft on him, I told him to take two Paracetemol and go to college.  more

   

Ollie Marsden

Wednesday 22nd October 2008

7.40am – My youngest son Ollie shouts “right, I’m off now”.  I am in my bedroom wrapped in a towel, I do not go into the hall to see him, but I shout back “have a happy day” and he leaves for his third day’s teaching practice at a local primary school. 

 

5.10pm – I am walking along a footpath on my way to an exercise class following my day at work.   I am feeling unusually upbeat. Ollie has been home from Plymouth University since Sunday evening to do his teaching practice, staff problems at work have been resolved and my husband Kevin and I are off on holiday next week.  All is right with the world……………

 

7.05pm – I am still in my gym clothes chopping vegetables for dinner.  more

   

Luke Meekings
It was eighteen months on Christmas Eve 2009 since my son Luke died and I’m still struggling to find words adequate to describe both Luke and the impact of his death.

 

On June 24th 2008 I’d gone straight from work to Luke’s house; he had only just moved in and the house really wasn’t liveable-in and he was literally camping in a bedroom. My job for the evening was to put kitchen units together prior to the cooker being fitted – he could then at least stop surviving on takeaways!

 

Early evening Luke arrived home from work and as he pulled up in front of the house the tyre on his car blew. My husband and Luke tried unsuccessfully to change the tyre but quickly gave up. Luke was fretting about everything he still had to do including picking up his girlfriend from work and going to the gym as well as eating and working on his house.  more

   

Ryan Harrison

My beautiful son Ryan was 18 years of age when he decided to go travelling to Canada.

 

Me and my husband and his sister did not want him to go as he had recently packed up working for my husband as an apprentice alarm engineer. 

 

But Ryan just wanted to live his dream, which was travelling and having the time of his life.  I will never forget the last phone call we had from him when he said to me “mum, I’m living my dream and having a great time”. 

 

He left England on the 13th October 2009. The first week away he had managed to fit so much in and probably did more than what my husband and me had done in a lifetime.  more

   

Thomas Shackleton
Thomas Shackleton died on the 19th May 2004, aged 21.

 

Thomas was a great musician who played the guitar and could make a tune on any instrument. This was one of his songs that we played at his funeral - and on his gravestone we have a guitar engraved into the marble with the words “Sail my ship home”.

 

Thomas was the singer in a band called the "Slow Emotion” but this was a song he wrote and performed by himself. We are so very fortunate to have Thomas’ music and to hear his voice seems to bring him to life.  more

   

Rachel Haigh & Jason Chew

My daughter Rachel Haigh died in her sleep on the 4th December 2001 aged 14 years, from Viral Myocarditis. Eight years later, we are now mourning the loss of our son Jason Chew who died in his sleep on the 11th March 2009 aged 17 years, from Lymphocytic Myocarditis. 

 

I have read that it can be compared to a light switch being turned off, so I am grateful that my precious children were unaware and didn't suffer.  more

   

Neil 'Kymatik' Schuyleman
What can possibly prepare you for the total shock of being told – however gently – that your beloved only son had suddenly and unexpectedly ‘passed away’. What!  How?  When?

 

The thought rushed through my head ‘Can I get there to see him before it is too late!’. Then the dawning impact that the strong, happy, vibrant grown up son I had happily talked to on the phone two days before – was dead! No chance for any of us to hold him, say goodbye and tell him how much we loved him. How could that possibly be?  Whilst I now know how many countless other families face this shocking truth – it cannot begin to comfort you from the initial, unbelievable news that a child of yours – the person you nurtured, encouraged and loved – has gone before you.  more

   

Olivia Raby
Thursday 22nd May 2008 is a day I will never forget as that is the day our precious daughter Olivia Elaine Raby was taken away from us. She was playing rounders whilst at school, aged 14. Olivia was our only child, who was a fit and healthy young girl and was turning into a beautiful lady before our eyes.  She loved participating in sport - she was the captain of her primary school netball team and had represented Salford in the youth games playing hockey.  We were really proud to call her our daughter.

It started as just another normal day, although thinking about it maybe it wasn’t. I normally shouted Olivia to get up for school but this day I thankfully went up to her bedroom to wake her up, and as she left for school she shouted upstairs that she loved me and she’d see me later………if only.  more

   

Nicky Musgrave
Our daughter, Nicky, died a month before her 19th birthday in February 2006. She died suddenly and unexpectedly whilst watching an episode of “Friends” with one of her housemates in the house that she shared with four students.  Despite the best efforts of everybody - the housemates, paramedics and doctor - Nicky was pronounced dead shortly after I arrived at the house to be with her. 

The cause of death was dilated cardiomyopathy.  She was asymptomatic and when my husband and I saw her earlier on the day she died, she was full of zest for life, talking non-stop about her job, friends, university and plans for the following academic year after she finished her Art Foundation course.  more

   

Luke Francis
There is song affectionately known as ‘The Sunscreen Song’.  A couple of lines from the song are:  "Don't worry about the future, or worry, but know that worrying is as effective as trying to solve an algebra equation by chewing bubble gum. The real troubles in your life are apt to be things that never crossed your worried mind, the kind that blindside you at 4pm on some idle Tuesday."

Well I was blindsided at 3.30am on a Sunday morning.

I was in a deep sleep and somewhere in the distance I could hear a phone ringing….. it took me several seconds to comprehend it was the house phone.  more

   

Jamie Gentleman

Where do I start! My heart hurts, my pulse is still as I start to share my tragic loss.

 

Jamie ‘G’ - our shining Star - went to heaven on Friday 15th March 2009, five days before his 14th Birthday.

 

A sportsman in every sense - football, darts, golf, fishing - most sports he shone at and loved taking part. I can't begin to understand this and each day rolls into another.

 

We live for the happy 14 years we had and are grateful for every minute.  more

   

Guy Evans

Guy Evans, died aged 17 of a suspected heart arrhythmia while riding his motorbike. How does anyone begin to describe the pain at losing a precious child suddenly and without any warning?

 

The evening of August 14th last year (2008) was the last time we saw our beloved 17-year-old twin son, Guy, alive.

 

At around 7pm he came into the house to pick up some things for a sleepover, gave me (his mum) a hug, said a cheery “see you Dad” to his father who was in the sitting room watching TV, yelled goodbye to his brother upstairs - and was gone from our lives forever.  more

   

Matthew Steven Wallbank

On the 24th May 2008 our precious, kind, loving, gentle son Matthew died suddenly in his sleep, he was 29 years old.  Matthew had travelled down to London with his life long friend Eddie to attend the wedding of his friend Jon to Pam.  Matthew had met Jon when they were both students at Northampton University and they had been good friends ever since.

 

We last saw Matthew on the 21st May when he had come to watch the football (Chelsea v Man United) with his Dad and Granddad.  I remember his Dad asking him if he was coming for his tea on Friday but he had said (in his own words) “I can’t Dad, I am travelling down to London for the cockney wedding”.  more

   

Robert O'Kane

A year has gone by since our son Robert passed away, a long heartbreaking emotional year for myself, my husband and our two remaining sons.

 

Robert was our middle son, he had a sunny disposition was always full of laughter -  fun-loving and friendly to everyone he met. Robert loved music, it makes me smile when i think of  him singing at the top of his voice driving us all to distraction.

 

He had the knack of making people feel special and if someone was down or sad Robert would be the first to make a fuss of them.  more

   

Kira Louise Lloyd
Our daughter, Kira Louise Lloyd, was born on the 12th June 1997 but sadly and tragically Kira became an angel too soon on the 22nd June 2008 - just ten days after her 11th birthday.

Kira was our only child.  She was a beautiful, funny, energetic, happy, caring and loving little girl who lived each day to the full and never wanted a day to end.

Kira started and ended each day with a smile, song and dance.  Kira had a smile that will never be forgotten, which is much like Kira's character in life - once seen, never forgotten.

Kira enjoyed most things in life and she had many hobbies and interests.  more

   

Neil Desai
My son Neil Desai died suddenly and unexpectedly in his sleep on the 5th September 2008, his 22nd birthday, whilst on holiday with his girlfriend in Spain. His death caused immense shock and sadness for our family and his friends. Neil died of an unidentified cardiac condition, which was eventually classified as Sudden Adult Death Syndrome (“SADS”).

Neil was an incredibly talented individual.  He was a world ranked squash player; an outstanding cricketer who had appeared in the Wisden Almanac as one of the top schools' all-rounders in the UK representing Tiffin School; a first class student of Law at Nottingham University and had gained work experience at a number of ’Magic Circle' law firms in the city including Clifford Chance, Linklaters, Slaughter & May and Allen & Overy.  He won the Sports Personality of the Year award at the University of Nottingham in 2008.  more

   

Kasia Ber
It is now three years since we lost our precious baby at 17 years old from Long QT Syndrome. She was beautiful, funny and talented, kind and thoughtful and had everything to give in life with so much to look forward to and she was so cruelly and needlessly robbed of the life she truly deserved.

She was such a hard worker and the life and soul of whatever she did and took part in everything.  Our Kasia had so much confidence and was forever doing something - she could not walk in the house she had to skip and dance.

She also had a beautiful voice and would always be singing. I miss all the funny dances she would do for me and lending each other earrings; our girlie chats and argues - but we won't have all that back.  more

   

Daniel James Lowes

My son, Daniel James Lowes, died suddenly on February 20th 2007 at around 9.30pm from an undetected heart condition - Hypertrophic Cardiomyopathy - at the age of 18. 

 

Daniel had always been fit and healthy, very active. Daniel - as I'm sure all mothers would say about their children - was the most loving, caring son any mother could wish for. Daniel wasn't just my son but also my very best friend.

On the morning of the 20th February it was Daniel's day off college, so as usual he would catch up with some sleep. About an hour before I was due to leave for work, Daniel woke up and complained of a raging sore throat - which wasn't uncommon as most of Daniel's friends at college had the flu virus. He was fine within himself.  more

   

Chloe Lauren Leach

It really is difficult to know where to begin as it’s just not possible to prepare yourself and your family for such heartbreaking circumstances.  Our beautiful daughter Chloe Lauren Leach collapsed and died whilst out with friends in a local nightclub on the 30th September 2008, aged 21 years.  This day has changed our lives forever. 

 

Chloe was in her 3rd Year of her Social Work Degree and was predicted a “First Class Honours Degree”.  It all seems so much hard work for nothing. 

 

Chloe had blossomed into a lovely, caring, fun-loving and confident young woman.  It’s hard to believe that she was so shy as a young child.  more

   

Liam Ross

My son Liam was a wonderful boy who touched the hearts of many people.

 

Liam sadly and very suddenly passed away on Tuesday 16th December 2008, and this has left a huge whole in our lives.

 

Liam loved life, he was part of a loving family, and had many friends.  Liam was cheeky but always respectful, being able to communicate with younger children and adults alike.  Liam loved music, cricket and football.

 

His favourite team was Everton FC, for whom he was once a mascot.  more

   

Richard 'Rich' Tomkins

Rich’, or Boy as he was affectionately known - the best son you could ever wish for was cruelly taken from us, on the 24th July 2008, age 23. We lost Rich from undiagnosed Infective Endocarditis which is the one infection that for 18 years of Rich’s life I had always been acutely aware of - as without prompt diagnosis it would take his life.

 

Rich’ was diagnosed with Aortic Stenosis at the age of 5 and I was told that Rich’ must always look after his teeth and be careful when he cut himself because of the risk of Endocarditis. He had the most fantastic teeth ever – with not one filling in his mouth and at age 23......  more

   

Faye Linton

Faye was only 25 years of age when she so suddenly died.

She was within days of going on a 'once in a lifetime' holiday to America when we found her dead in bed on the morning of 30th October 2006.

 

The doctors knew that Faye had a heart block problem, but as she had a pacemaker fitted less than six months previously they were happy for her to go to America.

 

She was a beautiful, happy, kind and hard working young woman.  She worked in a very busy call centre for Barclays Bank, in the business section.  more

   

Stephen Westley

Stephen was just 34 when he was taken from me by this silent killer.  He had woken up early on Saturday 18th March 2006, being sick.  He went to the chemist to ask for something to help him as he was eager to go and get my Mothers Day present.

 

I remember him laughing when I said I wanted drawer/cupboard handles to complete my new kitchen. I needed 13 and between my five children this is what I had asked for.  He collapsed whilst out and the chemist rang for an ambulance. I have never bought the final two handles - I just cannot, because I know Stephen wanted to get them.

 

He was rushed to hospital where he was diagnosed as having gastroenteritis and he was given an injection and advised to lie down for half an hour to let it work.  more

   

Mathew Blease

The 1st February 2008 was the saddest day of my life.  My beautiful son Mathew was taken from me suddenly at the tender age of 13, just 6 weeks before his 14th birthday.

 

Mathew was fit and healthy with lots of energy.  He played football for his dad's team and was a coach with my team - he was about to take his referee badge too.  He played badminton for his school and lived life to the full.

 

Mathew had complained of a sore throat on the Monday but still went to school.  On the Wednesday afternoon he told me he did not feel well and was going to lie down.  more

   

Leanne Haddrell

On the 1st of May 2008, our beautiful precious daughter and wonderful sister to David was sadly taken from us, aged just 21.

 

Leanne was at Uni studying sports and was in her 2nd year.  She was an incredibly fit and healthy young lady which is why this is all so hard to understand. Leanne played water polo and swam for the University and came home at weekends to work as a lifeguard at our local leisure centre. 

 

Leanne had been a bit off colour the weekend before and we thought she had flu.  However, she didn't want to come home.  more

   

Jamahl Samuels

It was just a normal day. Jamahl had broken up from school for his Easter holidays.  It was Thursday, tomorrow was Easter Friday.

 

I came home from work at about 4pm, happy because I also had a few days off work for Easter and planned to relax and enjoy my time off.  Jamahl was lying on the settee watching the television as normal, "How was work mom?" he asked; "How was school Jay?" I asked - just as we normally did.

I went straight into the kitchen and started to cook dinner. Jamahl was still lying on the settee and I interrupted him and sent him to the local shop to buy some cat food and a newspaper.  more

   

Amy Russell

Our only daughter Amy Jayne Russell was born 7th January 1984.  Throughout her life she was fit and healthy with no unusual illnesses nor signs of one.

 

When she was 20 years old she trained with a tour operator to be a 'kiddie rep' for them because she loved children.  She left Manchester on 12th March 2004 - and never came back to us!

 

Playing water polo in the hotel swimming pool with the residents and staff on 15th October 2004, Amy collapsed and could not be revived.  She died at the poolside. The post mortem in Spain could find 'no cause of death'.  In order to release her to the UK the death certificate stated that she died from a 'coronary embolism'.  more

   

David Williams

On the evening of the 13th December 2005, my 16 year old son David returned home from a kick boxing session.  He was his usual self apart from the fact that he told me his heart was racing.  I suggested that he had overdone it and his heart rate was just taking a while to get back to normal.  He showered and ate then later went to bed. 

 

Little did I know that that would be the last time I would see him alive. 

 

My daughter Lisa found him in the morning curled up as if asleep.  She initially thought he was messing around (something that he would have probably done) but when he did not wake, she phoned 999 and performed resuscitation with the support of the operator, but it was too late. more

   

Hannah Turberville

Our daughter Hannah Turberville died suddenly on February 17th 2007 aged just 7 years old.  Her death was made even more dramatic by the fact we were on holiday as a family, in France, due to return to England the following morning.

 

We were skiing with Lucy, Hannah’s non-identical twin sister, and Oliver, her 8 year old brother. We had a fantastic week skiing as a family of 5 and one which we will never forget. We were self-catering and had gone out for dinner on the Friday evening and had a lovely meal. Hannah had eaten pizza and then ice cream one of her favourite meals. We had talked about the holiday - the best bits and the not so good bits.  more

   

Gareth Thomas

When Gareth’s heart stopped on February 25th this year it broke all our hearts. Gareth was 21 years old, a graduate in International Politics and Law with his whole life ahead of him. He had recently moved into a house with three of his oldest friends and they were busy finding jobs and playing together in the band they had formed while still at school.

 

Gareth was very fit and healthy. He had played football for years and had returned from his first skiing trip just two weeks before he died. He was such a kind, gentle young man and loved spending time with his friends and family. He loved films and computer games and playing his bass guitar.  more

   

Luke Ashton

Christmas day 2006 began much as any other day, with the familiar routine of dog walking and a hurried, rather cursory tidying up. I recall stuffing the Telegraph colour supplement under the chaise, thinking that the cover feature on the effects of melting ice caps on Polar bears had to be read, but was too sad for Christmas.

 

I was wholly ignorant of the tragedy that was about to envelop my family before the day was through. My second son Luke slumbered on as I left for work as a District nurse in Ramsey, Isle of Man. Luke opened his presents in his room, and then spent the afternoon walking with his grandfather and the dogs.  more

   

Simon Jon Cullum

Simon was my oldest son, born on 6th October 1977.  He was fit and healthy, a normal 29 year old who didn't drink or smoke.

On Friday 8th June 2007 I came home from doing some shopping to find Simon sitting at the computer. On my arrival he came into the kitchen and we had a conversation about what we would be having for dinner that evening, and then he went up to his bedroom to go on the Playstation. It was around 11.45am.

At 12.45pm I noticed that his car keys were still in the kitchen and he had an appointment in town at that time.  I called him and got no reply.  more

   

Marcus Armstrong

Marcus was 28 years old when he died.  Two days previously he was at home when he felt ill. He was short of breath, sweating and had chest pains - the symptoms were identical to when he was rushed to hospital a few years earlier.  Back then it was diagnosed as a panic attack after lots of  tests and 4 hours in the hospital. 

 

Marcus told his partner Lucy he would be fine as he didn’t want to go back into hospital again.  The next day he felt better and went to work as a Taxi driver in Harwich but his mum was insistent he went to the doctors for a check up. 

 

He reluctantly went, they did an ECG test, blood pressure and other checks, and was assured everything was fine. The next day he collapsed and died.  more

   

Matthew Kamis

My son, aged 26 years, died on 15th January 2006, (born on November 22nd 1980), of Sudden Adult Death Syndrome, which we had never heard of before we lost Matthew.  Matthew was our youngest child.  He had never been ill, and had shown no signs of feeling unwell.

On the morning of January 15th, around lunchtime, Matthew had just woken up, as he worked six days a week and on a Sunday he had a lie in bed.  I, his mum, was just coming out of the bathroom, which is opposite to Matthew’s room.  He asked me if I would make him a bacon sandwich.  more

   

Leon Ashley Manners

Let me take you back to the day in question, July 17th 1999. A bright, warm, sunny day. My son Leon was excited as it was his final day at nursery school. He was due to start the ‘BIG’ school in September.

 

When we arrived at the school, Leon had to try on his new school uniform. I can picture him standing tall and proud. He looked so grown up in his little grey trousers, white shirt and blue jumper. I said, “Look at you my baby, all grown up!”  He looked at me all coy with a big gorgeous grin.

 

After school, Leon’s friend came to play in the back garden.  more

   

Ryan Darby

Ryan is our only child.  We love him dearly.  He was our life.  Happy-go-lucky, everyone’s friend.  As one friend said at his funeral ‘gave everything, asked for nothing’.  That really summed him up. 

 

Ryan and Nicola (Ryan’s fiancée) had a little boy, Harley, 2 ½ years ago.  We were over the moon.  Our life was complete.  What joy – we would see them two or three times in the week and every Sunday for lunch.  Every holiday was spent with us in our house in Spain. 

 

We had all been to Spain in June for a family holiday, but in August Ryan wanted to go and visit his friend in Thailand.  more

   

Jimmy & Chrissy

Our family had a very strong history of seizures.  It began with Mom and myself and I passed it on to my children.  We had been labelled with epilepsy and with medicine we lived a fairly normal life.

Chrissy began having seizures at seven years of age and Jimmy began at eleven or twelve.  Jimmy was 22, married with a baby when I received a phone call on April 15, 2000, that would forever change our lives.  more

   

Nathan Butler

Where do we start?  There’s so much to tell - as his teacher’s used to say!

 

Nathan was born on 1st April 1989 and even as a young baby he managed to attract a lot of attention - a charm which became more evident as he grew up into a young man.  He was always full of life and as a young boy he wanted to be involved in everything that was going on and his main aim was to entertain.

His favourite characters were Fireman Sam and Superman and we have vivid memories of him in his own “home made” Superman costume consisting of red pants over blue joggers, a blue sweatshirt with a cardboard coloured ‘S’ stuck on the front and a tea towel for a cape!  more

   

Daniel Boughey

My son was so full of life, he loved it so much.  I am not saying he was an angel, as at times he could be a right pain - that's teenagers for a you.  But a mother's love is unconditional, and I loved Daniel so much.  He was my life and I would do anything for him - same as my other children Stuart and Jessica.

 

As all brothers and sisters, they had their ups and downs.  He always had a smile on his face, and was forever making us laugh.  I miss him so much - we all do.  Sunday 3rd September was a lovely family day, something that we can't always do due to work, etc. and Stu and Daniel wanting to do their own things.  more

   

Daniel Larkin

Our wonderful son Daniel was tragically taken from us on 6th January 2006.  Daniel was just nineteen years old. 

He was the biggest Liverpool football fan ever - it really was his life.  He was loved by everyone who met him.  Danny was a quiet and sensible young man with an extremely good sense of humour.  We all miss him every hour of every day.  The memories he has left behind have made us all very, very proud. 

Myself, his Dad and younger brother Adam had only left Danny that morning to fly back to Mallorca, as we were living and working there at the time.  more

   

Lisa Jane Browne

My husband, Terry, and I received a telephone call from our son-in-law on Saturday 10 January 1998 at approximately 8am to say that our daughter, Lisa Jane Browne, a nurse, aged 27 years, was being taken to hospital.  My son-in-law told me that he had received a telephone call from the hospital ward, where Lisa was due to be working the early shift, to ask if Lisa had overslept.  Unable to rouse Lisa, my son-in-law called the paramedics who were unfortunately unable to resuscitate Lisa.  When my husband and I arrived at the hospital we were told that Lisa had died. 

 

A post mortem two days later revealed no obvious cause of death, and I was informed by the Pathologist that Lisa should still be alive.  more

   

Charlene Page

Our beautiful daughter Charlene Page was born on the 29th September 1985, and passed away on the 6th July 2005 from SADS.

 

Charlene had always appeared fit and healthy, and had always kept in good health.  She had no symptoms to alert us that anything was wrong.

 

She was a very lively kid and made friends easily.  This was due to her friendly nature and her wicked sense of humour.

 

The 6th of July 2005 started off as another 'typical day'.  more

   

Cameron Strathie

Our precious, beautiful son, born 2 August 1999, passed away 7 January 2006 aged 6 years, he was our first child and our pride and joy. Cameron passed suddenly in our living room whilst watching TV with his little sister Leah, aged 2.

He had been suffering from a bad flu but that day and the 2 previous but he seemed to be on the road to recovery, he had no sign of any illness on that day, the worst day of our lives. He just stopped breathing, I heard a loud snoring noise and found him on his side, his Dad had just popped out and returned just as this was happening. He tried his best to resuscitate him but the ambulance took 20 minutes and although the paramedics also tried their best, just after we got to the hospital we were told the most shocking awful news.  more

   

Stuart Attridge

Stuart was born on Saturday 11th October 1980 at 9.30pm at the old Redhill General Hospital.  He waited until the Dinner Dance was underway and then made his appearance in his usual rush, with our doctor only just catching him as he was born.  Rosemary's first comment was on how small he was - the lightest of all our children at only 6lbs 2oz.  Who would have guessed he would grow to be the tall, strapping young man that he was.  A placid baby who was content to let his big brother amuse and torment him until he was old enough to retaliate! 

Stuart attended a playgroup and then started his school days at the old Reigate Parish Church School.  His all round talent for sport soon started to appear, and can you believe he learnt to play the violin.  more

   

Joel Davies

Joel died in his sleep between the night of Wednesday June 8th and Thursday 9th June.  We are still awaiting the inquest but as there was no cause of death found we believe he died of Sudden Adult Death.  We, his parents, were on a 10-day, 24 year belated honeymoon in St Lucia at the time of his death.

 

He was healthy and very happy, especially that day.  He had rushed home from work to make sure someone was in to sign for his Glastonbury ticket.  The ticket arrived at around 5pm. We only know this as he was chatting on msn to friends saying how ecstatic he was to have them in his hand.  His msn named had been changed to `I have my ticket in my hand'.  The msn messaging went on until around 7.45pm. The last message to someone was `I am off for a bit...be back later'.  more

   

Alaina Taylor

Alaina was born in 1990 and was a lovely healthy baby of 9lb 3oz.  The delivery was fast, with no pain relief - in fact the nurses were stunned as I laughed though most of it.  Fifty minutes later she was here.  From day one she wanted to see and listen - always wanting to know about things.  As she got older she knew facts we did not, and would put us to shame when she knew stuff.

 

She is the youngest of three.  Kelly is her older sister who will be twenty in March, and Craig, her brother, was eighteen in November.  Me and Carl have been happily married for twenty one years, and we live in a new four bedroom property that we have made our home.  Alaina has her own room and loved to go and use her computer and put on loud music as soon as she came home from school.  We always had our evening meal together as a family, and we would talk for ages, laughing about the day's events or past events. more

   

Chris Rice

My son Chris died on Monday 26th September 2005 aged 18 years.  He was at Hengistbury Head, where he taught sailing and kayaking.  He also coached swimming for Bournemouth Dolphins.  He loved working with children and was an inspiration to all whose lives he touched.  Chris achieved in 18 years what many would not achieve in 80 years.

 

Chris was a county level swimmer, and was diagnosed with HCM at 10 years of age.  We were told that there was no cure.  They tried Beta-Blockers for a time, but they made Chris very tired and seemed to give him symptoms.  Chris was monitored six-monthly at Southampton Hospital, until he was 17 years old.  We went every six months, and my lovely placid son would turn into an argumentative monster every time.  He used to say, "Its pointless.  We all say the same thing every time - is it any better?  Any worse?  No, see you in six months."  more

   

Stephen Ruggier

My 17-year-old son Stephen Peter Ruggier was a fit, healthy lad who was looking forward to becoming 18 - which was only twenty days away when he died.  He died on 4th October 2004, and was going to celebrate his 18th birthday on the 24th October.

He was always happy and full of life.  He was training to be a mechanic, and had just started his second and final year at college.  He had already achieved his Level 1, which we are all very proud of.

It all started on the Saturday morning when Stephen said he did not feel well.  On the Sunday the doctor came and said that Stephen had tonsilitis, and prescribed him with penicillin.  more

   

Sarah Jane Johnson

Sarah died at the age of 29 years on the 18th of August 2000, of an undetected heart condition called Arrhythmogenic Cardiomyopathy.  To see her you'd have never thought there'd be anything wrong with her. She was so fit and active and went to keep fit at the gym and also did yoga. She loved life, and she lived life to the full.

 

She achieved so much in her life.  She gained 9 "O" levels, as well as "A" levels, and went on to Birmingham University.  At the time of her death, she was an office manager for a company called P.D.C. Brush in Crewe.

 

Sarah loved watching her beloved Arsenal Football team, and also drawing, sketching, and painting - and she had an "A" level in Art.  She loved listening to many of her CDs and singing to them, and even did a few karaokes and won some prizes as well.   more

   

Kay Wilson

It’s now been eleven months since our daughter Kay left us.  We do not have to tell you how we feel, only that she along with her surviving sister Kelly, was one half of our life’s work and soul purpose for living.  We still do not understand why she died save the medical verdict was Myocarditis, underlying cause unknown.

She passed away on the 26th April 2004 one day before her 19th Birthday.  The previous evening was a celebration with her friends for her birthday when she returned home just before midnight.   Five hours later she collapsed on her bed and died instantly without warning.  Medical reports indicate no alcohol, and no drugs - cause of death unknown, and all our efforts to revive her were futile. more

   
James Kelly

James Kelly

This photo of James was taken a few weeks before he passed away and the photo of him with his younger brother and sisters was actually taken the day before he collapsed.  As you can see from it, he looks very fit and healthy and appears to have nothing wrong with him.  I am so happy I took the children to have the photographs taken that day, as I was in two minds whether to go or put it off until a later date as, but for some reason I decided I may as well go.

 

The 5 of us had a wonderful day, getting their pictures taken (me getting hit with a beach ball and other items to keep the children smiling) and going for lunch. James also told me a few things I would never have known if we had not gone out that day, e.g. how he liked the feeling of polystyrene (or as he called it polyester) and dipping his chips into ice-cream. more

 

 

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