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Adam Donnelly
Our 17 year old son Adam died suddenly on 30th
July 2004. That is the day my life changed forever.
We were on holiday in
Cyprus with a group of friends – the day had started normally with
breakfast and then down to the pool where we sat chatting for a while.
My husband Jed, daughter Sian and I decided we wanted to go snorkelling
in a lovely bay about 10 minutes walk away but Adam decided he would
prefer to stay behind. Just before we’d left, I and another friend
had been discussing teenage boys and how they can be with their mums – I
said that Adam was always up for a kiss and hug – I’d given him a big
kiss on the cheek and said “I love you” – he replied with his usual
embarrassed “get off me!” but was smiling all the same! That was the
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James Byers
My name is Teresa Byers, I am the mother of four boys, with a broken
heart.
On 9th February 2000 our world came tumbling down. Our 3rd son
James, who was being treated for Wolf Parkinson White, dropped dead in
school at the age of 7.
The teachers worked non-stop to revive him until the medics came and
they took over working on him to bring him back.
The sad thing is he did
not want to come back, his heart stopped suddenly as if someone switched
off a light and they never got any rhythm from shocking him or
resuscitation.
He was taken to casualty and they continued working on him throughout
the journey and in hospital. I was at work when I got the message he had
taken ill, but mum's seem to know - well I did. He wasn't sick, he
was gone, I could feel it through my whole body.
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Nicholas Thomas
I was in a deep sleep and somewhere in my dream I could
hear a phone ringing. It took a while for me to comprehend it was the
bedside phone. The clock on the bed side table said 2:00am. As
soon as I picked up the phone I heard my brother’s trembling voice
saying “He has gone”.
It has
always worried me that I never asked him who he was talking about and
how I instantly knew who he was referring to. He was unable to give any
details.
Our son
Nicholas died suddenly at the wheel of his
car while waiting for the
traffic lights to change on the 13th January 2005 at 10:00pm.
Nicholas was 25 and the eldest of our two children. His sister Natasha
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Sarah Anne Bennett
Our beautiful, vivacious
daughter Sarah, whom we cherished and adored, was born on 10th
October 1987. She was born breach and four weeks early when my waters
broke. We took her home a week later and that night had the worst storms
in years.
Sarah celebrated her 22nd
birthday in October. She was a legal secretary and had just started a
new job in London after being out of work for a year.
Sarah was a very happy
child, always laughing and smiling and we called her “Angel”. She loved
primary school where she excelled and was a very popular girl with the
other children and teachers. more
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Paul Mulford
BETWEEN THOSE
SMILES
The look of mischief
The smile disguising the next naughty move
The unread tale:
Books, cuddles.... too boring!
You understood: life was for living, exploring.
You rushed at life, running first, never walking.
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James Johnsen
We had no idea that
James would leave us at such an early age. He had gone out Christmas
shopping to Newcastle with his brother Leon and planned to meet up with
friends in a bar later in the afternoon.
When James arrived he
ordered a drink but told his brother he was feeling dizzy and began to
make his way outside. Leon followed him to ask if he was alright and in
that brief moment James collapsed in his arms showing signs of a heart
attack.
Paramedics arrived
within a few short minutes but it was too late and James was announced
dead on arrival at the hospital.
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Martyn Luckett
Our youngest son Martyn went to live with
his sister in Swindon, whilst we lived in North Devon. He was 19 years
old and one of three children - Nick was the eldest, Charlotte the
middle (and only daughter) and Martyn.
The elder two knew exactly what they wanted
to do, though Martyn did not know and was different - but he was still
my baby!
Martyn had been living with Charlotte for
four months. They got along very well but he decided that he
missed his friends back home and wanted to move back. He had
returned from a week's holiday to Swindon, and on the Saturday he and
Charlotte did a Fun Run for the neighbours' children's school.
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Peter Dean Button
Until the 26th July 2007 as a family we had a lovely life. On
the 27th July 2007 it came to an end. Our lovely, fit and
healthy son died. It would have been about 5.30am in bed with our
daughter-in-law at his side. Peter Jnr was 37.
The
destruction and devastation this caused I often wonder how we are still
standing. Our daughter-in-law Helen, our daughter Susie, my husband
Peter Snr and myself all just wanted to go with Peter Jnr.
Our
daughter stopped eating, as her brother could no longer eat, our
daughter-in-law just ate edges of toast, all of us lost so much weight.
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Matthew 'Love' Bradley
How do I begin?
How can any mother start to recount the most awful day of her life? It
has taken me nearly three years to begin to come to terms with our sad
loss.
It began on March 27th
2007, which just happened to be my birthday. The day began with usual
birthday wishes and cards, etc - but the everyday chores take over and I
had to drive Matt into college. He was studying 3D graphic design at
our local college, I won’t pretend he was a perfect student - there were
days when he didn’t want to go - but we have all been there with work.
So in general he would frame himself and get back on task.
This particular morning,
he woke and complained of having a headache, but not wanting to be too
soft on him, I told him to take two Paracetemol and go to college.
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Ollie Marsden
Wednesday 22nd
October 2008
7.40am – My
youngest son Ollie shouts “right, I’m off now”. I am in my bedroom
wrapped in a towel, I do not go into the hall
to see him,
but I shout back “have a happy day” and he leaves for his third day’s
teaching practice at a local primary school.
5.10pm – I
am walking along a footpath on my way to an exercise class following my
day at work. I am feeling
unusually upbeat. Ollie has been home from
Plymouth University since Sunday evening to do his teaching practice,
staff problems at work have been resolved and my husband Kevin and I are
off on holiday next week. All is right with the world……………
7.05pm – I
am still in my gym clothes chopping vegetables for dinner.
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Luke Meekings
It was
eighteen months on Christmas Eve 2009 since my son Luke died and I’m
still struggling to find words adequate to describe both Luke and the
impact of his death.
On June 24th
2008 I’d gone straight from work to Luke’s house; he had only just moved
in and the house really wasn’t liveable-in and he was literally camping
in a bedroom. My job for the evening was to put kitchen units together
prior to the cooker being fitted – he could then at least stop surviving
on takeaways!
Early
evening Luke arrived home from work and as he pulled up in front of the
house the tyre on his car blew. My husband and Luke tried unsuccessfully
to change the tyre but quickly gave up. Luke was fretting about
everything he still had
to do
including picking up his girlfriend from work and going to the gym as
well as eating and working on his house.
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Ryan Harrison
My beautiful
son Ryan was 18 years of age when he decided to go travelling to Canada.
Me and my
husband and his sister did not want him to go as he had recently packed up
working for my husband as an apprentice alarm engineer.
But Ryan just
wanted to live his dream, which was travelling and having the time of his
life. I will never forget the last phone call we had from him when he said
to me “mum, I’m living my dream and having a great time”.
He left England
on the 13th October 2009. The first week away he had managed to
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Thomas Shackleton
Thomas Shackleton died on the 19th May 2004,
aged 21.
Thomas was a great musician
who played the guitar and could make a tune on any instrument.
This was one of his songs that we played at his funeral - and on his
gravestone we have a guitar engraved into the marble with the words “Sail my
ship home”.
Thomas was the
singer in a band called the "Slow Emotion” but this was a song he wrote and
performed by himself. We are so very fortunate to have Thomas’ music and to
hear his voice seems to bring him to life.
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Rachel Haigh & Jason Chew
My daughter Rachel Haigh died in her
sleep on the 4th December 2001 aged 14 years, from Viral Myocarditis.
Eight years later, we are now mourning the loss of our son Jason Chew
who died in his sleep on the 11th March 2009 aged 17 years, from
Lymphocytic Myocarditis.
I have read that it can be compared to a
light switch being turned off, so I am grateful that my precious
children were unaware and didn't suffer.
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Neil 'Kymatik' Schuyleman
What can
possibly prepare you for the total shock of being told – however gently
– that your beloved only son had suddenly and unexpectedly ‘passed
away’. What! How? When?
The thought rushed
through my head ‘Can I get there to see him before it is too late!’.
Then the dawning impact that the strong, happy, vibrant grown up son I
had happily talked to on the phone two days before – was dead! No chance
for any of us to hold him, say goodbye and tell him how much we loved
him. How could that possibly be? Whilst I now know how many
countless other families face this shocking truth – it cannot begin to
comfort you from the initial, unbelievable news that a child of yours –
the person you nurtured, encouraged and loved – has gone before you.
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Olivia Raby
Thursday 22nd May 2008 is a day I will never forget as that is the day
our precious daughter Olivia Elaine Raby was taken away from us. She was
playing rounders whilst at school, aged 14. Olivia was our only child,
who was a fit and healthy young girl and was turning into a beautiful
lady before our eyes. She loved participating in sport - she was
the captain of her primary school netball team and had represented
Salford in the youth games playing hockey. We were really proud to
call her our daughter.
It started
as just another normal day, although thinking about it maybe it wasn’t. I
normally shouted Olivia to get up for school but this day I thankfully went
up to her bedroom to wake her up, and as she left for school she shouted
upstairs that she loved me and she’d see me later………if only.
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Nicky Musgrave
Our daughter, Nicky, died a month before her 19th
birthday in February 2006. She died suddenly and unexpectedly whilst
watching an episode of “Friends” with one of her housemates in the house
that she shared with four students. Despite the best efforts of
everybody - the housemates, paramedics and doctor - Nicky was pronounced
dead shortly after I arrived at the house to be with her.
The cause of
death was dilated cardiomyopathy. She was asymptomatic and when my husband
and I saw her earlier on the day she died, she was full of zest for life,
talking non-stop about her job, friends, university and plans for the
following academic year after she finished her Art Foundation course.
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Luke Francis
There is
song affectionately known as ‘The Sunscreen Song’. A couple
of lines from the song are: "Don't worry about the future, or worry,
but know that worrying is as effective as trying to solve an algebra
equation by chewing bubble gum. The real troubles in your life are apt
to be things that never crossed your worried mind, the kind that
blindside you at 4pm on some idle Tuesday."
Well I was blindsided at 3.30am on a Sunday
morning.
I was in a deep sleep and somewhere in the
distance I could hear a phone ringing….. it took me several seconds to
comprehend it was the house phone.
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Jamie Gentleman
Where do I start! My
heart hurts, my pulse is still as I start to share my tragic loss.
Jamie ‘G’ - our shining
Star - went to heaven on Friday 15th March 2009, five days before his
14th Birthday.
A sportsman
in every sense - football, darts, golf, fishing - most sports he shone
at and loved taking part. I can't begin to understand this and each day
rolls into another.
We live for
the happy 14 years we had and are grateful for every minute.
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Guy Evans
Guy Evans, died aged 17
of a suspected heart arrhythmia while riding his motorbike. How does
anyone begin to describe the pain at losing a precious child suddenly
and without any warning?
The evening of August 14th
last year (2008) was the last time we saw our beloved 17-year-old twin
son, Guy, alive.
At around 7pm he came
into the house to pick up some things for a sleepover, gave me (his
mum) a hug, said a cheery “see you Dad” to his father who was in the
sitting room watching TV, yelled goodbye to his brother upstairs - and
was gone from our lives forever.
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Matthew Steven Wallbank
On the 24th
May 2008 our precious, kind, loving, gentle son Matthew died suddenly in
his sleep, he was 29 years old. Matthew had travelled down to
London with his life long friend Eddie to attend the wedding of his
friend Jon to Pam. Matthew had met Jon when they were both students at
Northampton University and they had been good friends ever since.
We last saw
Matthew on the 21st May when he had come to watch the
football (Chelsea v Man United) with his Dad and Granddad. I remember
his Dad asking him if he was coming for his tea on Friday but he had
said (in his own words) “I can’t Dad, I am travelling down to London for
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Robert O'Kane
A year has
gone by since our son Robert passed away, a long heartbreaking emotional
year for myself, my husband and our two remaining sons.
Robert was our
middle son, he had a sunny disposition was always full of laughter -
fun-loving and friendly to everyone he met. Robert loved music, it makes me
smile when i think of him singing at the top of his voice driving us all to
distraction.
He had the
knack of making people feel special and if someone was down or sad Robert
would be the first to make a fuss of them.
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Kira Louise Lloyd
Our daughter, Kira
Louise Lloyd, was born on the 12th June 1997 but sadly and tragically
Kira became an angel too soon on the 22nd June 2008 - just ten days
after her 11th birthday.
Kira was our only child.
She was a beautiful, funny, energetic, happy, caring and loving little
girl who lived each day to the full and never wanted a day to end.
Kira started and ended
each day with a smile, song and dance. Kira had a smile that will
never be forgotten, which is much like Kira's character in life - once
seen, never forgotten.
Kira enjoyed most things
in life and she had many hobbies and interests.
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Neil Desai
My son
Neil Desai died suddenly and unexpectedly in his sleep on the 5th
September 2008, his 22nd birthday, whilst on holiday with his girlfriend
in Spain. His death caused immense shock and sadness for our family and
his friends. Neil died of an unidentified cardiac condition, which was
eventually classified as Sudden Adult Death Syndrome (“SADS”).
Neil was
an incredibly talented individual. He was a world ranked squash player;
an outstanding cricketer who had appeared in the Wisden Almanac as one
of the top schools' all-rounders in the UK representing Tiffin School; a
first class student of Law at Nottingham University and had gained work
experience at a number of ’Magic Circle' law firms in the city including
Clifford Chance, Linklaters, Slaughter & May and Allen & Overy. He won
the Sports Personality of the Year award at the University of Nottingham
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Kasia Ber
It is now
three years since we lost our precious baby at 17 years old from Long QT
Syndrome. She was beautiful, funny and talented, kind and thoughtful and
had everything to give in life with so much to look forward to and she
was so cruelly and needlessly robbed of the life she truly deserved.
She was such a hard
worker and the life and soul of whatever she did and took part in
everything. Our Kasia had so much confidence and was forever doing
something - she could not walk in the house she had to skip and dance.
She also had a beautiful
voice and would always be singing. I miss all the funny dances she would
do for me and lending each other earrings; our girlie chats and argues -
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Daniel James Lowes
My
son, Daniel James Lowes, died suddenly on February 20th 2007 at
around 9.30pm from an undetected heart condition - Hypertrophic
Cardiomyopathy - at the age of 18.
Daniel had always been fit and healthy, very active. Daniel - as I'm
sure all mothers would say about their children - was the most
loving, caring son any mother could wish for. Daniel wasn't just my
son but also my very best friend.
On
the morning of the 20th February it was Daniel's day off college, so
as usual he would catch up with some sleep. About an hour before I
was due to leave for work, Daniel woke up and complained of a raging
sore throat - which wasn't uncommon as most of Daniel's friends at
college had the flu virus. He was fine within himself.
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Chloe Lauren Leach
It really
is difficult to know where to begin as it’s just not possible to prepare
yourself and your family for such heartbreaking circumstances. Our
beautiful daughter Chloe Lauren Leach collapsed and died whilst out with
friends in a local nightclub on the 30th September 2008, aged
21 years. This day has changed our lives forever.
Chloe was
in her 3rd Year of her Social Work Degree and was predicted a
“First Class Honours Degree”. It all seems so much hard work for
nothing.
Chloe had
blossomed into a lovely, caring, fun-loving and confident young woman.
It’s hard to believe that she was so shy as a young child.
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Liam Ross
My son Liam was a wonderful
boy who touched the hearts of many people.
Liam sadly and very
suddenly passed away on Tuesday 16th December 2008, and this
has left a huge whole in our lives.
Liam loved life, he was
part of a loving family, and had many friends. Liam was cheeky but
always respectful, being able to communicate with younger children and
adults alike. Liam loved music, cricket and football.
His favourite team was
Everton FC, for whom he was once a mascot.
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Richard 'Rich' Tomkins
Rich’, or Boy as he was affectionately known - the
best son you could ever wish for was cruelly taken from us, on the 24th
July 2008, age 23. We lost Rich from undiagnosed Infective Endocarditis
which is the one infection that for 18 years of Rich’s life I had always
been acutely aware of - as without prompt diagnosis it would take his
life.
Rich’ was diagnosed with Aortic Stenosis at the age
of 5 and I was told that Rich’ must always look after his teeth and be
careful when he cut himself because of the risk of Endocarditis. He had
the most fantastic teeth ever – with not one filling in his mouth and at
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Faye Linton
Faye was only 25 years of age when she so suddenly died.
She was within days of going on a 'once in a lifetime' holiday
to America when we found her dead in bed on the morning of 30th
October 2006.
The doctors knew that Faye had a heart block problem, but as she
had a pacemaker fitted less than six months previously they were
happy for her to go to America.
She was a beautiful, happy, kind and hard working young woman.
She worked in a very busy call centre for Barclays Bank, in the
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Stephen Westley
Stephen was just 34
when he was taken from me by this silent killer. He had
woken up early on Saturday 18th March 2006, being sick. He went
to the chemist to ask for something to help him as he was eager
to go and get my Mothers Day present.
I remember him laughing
when I said I wanted drawer/cupboard handles to complete my new kitchen.
I needed 13 and between my five children this is what I had asked for.
He collapsed whilst out and
the chemist rang for an ambulance. I have never bought the final two
handles - I just cannot, because I know Stephen wanted to get them.
He was rushed to hospital
where he was diagnosed as having gastroenteritis and he was given an
injection and advised to lie down for half an hour to let it work.
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Mathew Blease
The 1st
February 2008 was the saddest day of my life. My beautiful son Mathew
was taken from me suddenly at the tender age of 13, just 6 weeks before
his 14th birthday.
Mathew
was fit and healthy with lots of energy. He played football for his
dad's team and was a coach with my team - he was about to take his
referee badge too. He played badminton for his school and lived life to
the full.
Mathew
had complained of a sore throat on the Monday but still went to school.
On the Wednesday afternoon he told me he did not feel well and was going
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Leanne Haddrell
On
the 1st of May 2008, our beautiful precious daughter and wonderful
sister to David was sadly taken from us, aged just 21.
Leanne was at Uni studying sports and was in her 2nd year. She
was an incredibly fit and healthy young lady which is why this is
all so hard to understand. Leanne played water polo and swam for the
University and came home at weekends to work as a lifeguard at our
local leisure centre.
Leanne had been a bit off colour the weekend before and we thought
she had flu. However, she didn't want to come home.
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Jamahl Samuels
It was just a normal day. Jamahl had broken up from school for his Easter
holidays. It was Thursday, tomorrow was Easter Friday.
I came home
from work at about 4pm, happy because I also had a few days off work for
Easter and planned to relax and enjoy my time off. Jamahl was lying on
the settee watching the television as normal, "How was work mom?" he asked;
"How was school Jay?" I asked - just as we normally did.
I went straight into the kitchen and started to cook dinner. Jamahl was
still lying on the settee and I interrupted him and sent him to the
local shop to buy some cat food and a newspaper.
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Amy Russell
Our only daughter Amy Jayne Russell was born 7th
January 1984. Throughout her life she was fit and healthy with no
unusual illnesses nor signs of one.
When she was 20 years old she trained with a tour
operator to be a 'kiddie rep' for them because she loved children.
She left Manchester on 12th March 2004 - and never came back to us!
Playing water polo in the hotel swimming pool with
the residents and staff on 15th October 2004, Amy collapsed and
could not be revived. She died at the poolside. The post mortem in
Spain could find 'no cause of death'.
In
order to release her to the UK the death certificate stated that she
died from a 'coronary embolism'.
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David Williams
On the evening of the 13th
December 2005, my 16 year old son David returned home from a kick boxing
session. He was his usual self apart from the fact that he told me
his heart was racing. I suggested that he had overdone it and his
heart rate was just taking a while to get back to normal. He showered
and ate then later went to bed.
Little did I know that that
would be the last time I would see him alive.
My daughter Lisa found him in
the morning curled up as if asleep. She initially thought he was
messing around (something that he would have probably done) but when he
did not wake, she phoned 999 and performed resuscitation with the
support of the operator, but it was too late.
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Hannah Turberville
Our daughter Hannah Turberville died suddenly on February 17th
2007 aged just 7 years old. Her death was made even more dramatic
by the fact we were on holiday as a family, in France, due to return to
England the following morning.
We were skiing with Lucy, Hannah’s non-identical twin sister, and
Oliver, her 8 year old brother. We had a fantastic week skiing as a
family of 5 and one which we will never forget. We were self-catering
and had gone out for dinner on the Friday evening and had a lovely meal.
Hannah had eaten pizza and then ice cream one of her favourite meals. We
had talked about the holiday - the best bits and the not so good bits.
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Gareth Thomas
When Gareth’s heart stopped on February
25th this year it broke all our hearts. Gareth was 21 years
old, a graduate in International Politics and Law with his whole life
ahead of him. He had recently moved into a house with three of his
oldest friends and they were busy finding jobs and playing together in
the band they had formed while still at school.
Gareth was very fit and healthy. He had
played football for years and had returned from his first skiing trip
just two weeks before he died. He was such a kind, gentle young man and
loved spending time with his friends and family.
He loved films and computer games and
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Luke Ashton
Christmas day 2006 began much as any other day, with the familiar
routine of dog walking and a hurried, rather cursory tidying up. I
recall stuffing the Telegraph colour supplement under the chaise,
thinking that the cover feature on the effects of melting ice caps on
Polar bears had to be read, but was too sad for Christmas.
I was wholly ignorant of the tragedy that was about to envelop my family
before the day was through. My second son Luke slumbered on as I left
for work as a District nurse in Ramsey, Isle of Man. Luke opened his
presents in his room, and then spent the afternoon walking with his
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Simon Jon Cullum
Simon was my oldest son, born on 6th
October 1977. He was fit and healthy, a normal 29 year old who
didn't drink or smoke.
On Friday 8th June 2007 I came
home from doing some shopping to find Simon sitting at the computer.
On my arrival he came into the kitchen and we had a conversation
about what we would be having for dinner that evening, and then he
went up to his bedroom to go on the Playstation. It was around
11.45am.
At 12.45pm I noticed
that his car keys were still in the kitchen and he had an
appointment in town at that time. I called him and got no
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Marcus Armstrong
Marcus was 28 years old
when he died. Two days previously he was at home when he felt ill. He
was short of breath, sweating and had chest pains - the symptoms were
identical to when he was rushed to hospital a few years earlier. Back
then it was diagnosed as a panic attack after lots of tests and 4 hours
in the hospital.
Marcus told his partner
Lucy he would be fine as he didn’t want to go back into hospital again.
The next day he felt better and went to work as a Taxi driver in Harwich
but his mum was insistent he went to the doctors for a check up.
He reluctantly went,
they did an ECG test, blood pressure and other checks, and was assured
everything was fine. The next day he collapsed and died.
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Matthew Kamis
My son, aged 26 years,
died on 15th January 2006, (born on November 22nd
1980), of Sudden Adult Death Syndrome, which we had never heard of
before we lost Matthew. Matthew was our youngest child. He had never
been ill, and had shown no signs of feeling unwell.
On
the morning of January 15th, around lunchtime, Matthew had
just woken up, as he worked six days a week and on a Sunday he had a lie
in bed. I, his mum, was just coming out of the bathroom, which is
opposite to Matthew’s room. He asked me if I would make him a bacon
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Leon Ashley Manners
Let me take you back to the day in question,
July 17th 1999. A bright, warm, sunny day. My son Leon was
excited as it was his final day at nursery school. He was due to start
the ‘BIG’ school in September.
When we arrived at the school, Leon had to
try on his new school uniform. I can picture him standing tall and
proud. He looked so grown up in his little grey trousers, white shirt
and blue jumper. I said, “Look at you my baby, all grown up!” He
looked at me all coy with a big gorgeous grin.
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Ryan Darby
Ryan is our only child. We love him dearly.
He was our life. Happy-go-lucky, everyone’s friend. As one friend said
at his funeral ‘gave everything, asked for nothing’. That really summed
him up.
Ryan and Nicola (Ryan’s fiancée) had a little
boy, Harley, 2 ½ years ago. We were over the moon. Our life was
complete. What joy – we would see them two or three times in the week and
every Sunday for lunch. Every holiday was spent with us in our house in
Spain.
We had all been to Spain in June for a family
holiday, but in August Ryan wanted to go and visit his friend in Thailand.
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Jimmy & Chrissy
Our family had a very
strong history of seizures. It began with Mom and myself and I
passed it on to my children. We had been labelled with epilepsy and
with medicine we lived a fairly normal life.
Chrissy began having
seizures at seven years of age and Jimmy began at eleven or twelve.
Jimmy was 22, married with a baby when I received a phone call on April
15, 2000, that would forever change our lives.
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Nathan Butler
Where
do we start? There’s so much to tell - as his teacher’s used to say!
Nathan was born on 1st April 1989 and even as
a young baby he managed to attract a lot of attention - a charm which
became more evident as he grew up into a young man. He was always full of
life and as a young boy he wanted to be involved in everything that was
going on and his main aim was to entertain.
His favourite characters were Fireman Sam and
Superman and we have vivid memories of him in his own “home made” Superman
costume consisting of red pants over blue joggers, a blue sweatshirt with
a cardboard coloured ‘S’ stuck on the front and a tea towel for a cape!
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Daniel Boughey
My son was so full of life, he loved it so much.
I am not saying he was an angel, as at times he could be a right pain - that's
teenagers for a you. But a mother's love is unconditional, and I loved
Daniel so much. He was my life and I would do anything for him - same as
my other children Stuart and Jessica.
As all brothers and sisters, they had their
ups and downs. He always had a smile on his face, and was forever
making us laugh. I miss him so much - we all do. Sunday 3rd
September was a lovely family day, something that we can't always do due
to work, etc. and Stu and Daniel wanting to do their own things.
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Daniel Larkin
Our wonderful son Daniel was tragically taken
from us on 6th January 2006. Daniel was just nineteen years old.
He was the biggest Liverpool football fan ever - it really was his life.
He was loved by everyone who met him. Danny was a quiet and sensible
young man with an extremely good sense of humour. We all miss him
every hour of every day. The memories he has left behind have made
us all very, very proud.
Myself, his Dad and younger brother Adam
had only left Danny that morning to fly back to Mallorca, as we were
living and working there at the time.
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Lisa Jane Browne
My husband, Terry, and I
received a telephone call from our son-in-law on Saturday 10 January 1998 at
approximately 8am to say that our daughter, Lisa Jane Browne, a nurse, aged 27
years, was being taken to hospital. My son-in-law told me that
he had received a telephone call from the hospital ward, where Lisa was due to
be working the early shift, to ask if Lisa had overslept. Unable to rouse
Lisa, my son-in-law called the paramedics who were unfortunately unable to
resuscitate Lisa. When my husband and I arrived at the hospital we were told
that Lisa had died.
A post mortem two days later
revealed no obvious cause of death, and I was informed by the Pathologist
that Lisa should still be alive. more
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Charlene Page
Our beautiful daughter Charlene Page was born on the
29th September 1985, and passed away on the 6th July 2005 from SADS.
Charlene had always appeared fit and healthy, and
had always kept in good health. She had no symptoms to alert us that
anything was wrong.
She was a very lively kid and made friends easily.
This was due to her friendly nature and her wicked sense of humour.
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Cameron Strathie
Our precious, beautiful son, born 2 August
1999, passed away 7 January 2006 aged 6 years, he was our first child and
our pride and joy. Cameron passed suddenly in our living room whilst
watching TV with his little sister Leah, aged 2.
He had been suffering from a bad flu but that
day and the 2 previous but he seemed to be on the road to recovery, he had
no sign of any illness on that day, the worst day of our lives. He just
stopped breathing, I heard a loud snoring noise and found him on his side,
his Dad had just popped out and returned just as this was happening. He
tried his best to resuscitate him but the ambulance took 20 minutes and
although the paramedics also tried their best, just after we got to the
hospital we were told the most shocking awful news.
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Stuart Attridge
Stuart was born on Saturday 11th October 1980
at 9.30pm at the old Redhill General Hospital. He waited until the
Dinner Dance was underway and then made his appearance in his usual rush,
with our doctor only just catching him as he was born. Rosemary's first comment
was on how small he was - the lightest of all our children at only 6lbs
2oz. Who would have guessed he would grow to be the tall, strapping
young man that he was. A placid baby who was content to let his big
brother amuse and torment him until he was old enough to retaliate!
Stuart attended a playgroup
and then started his school days at the old Reigate Parish Church School.
His all round talent for sport soon started to appear, and can you believe
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Joel Davies
Joel died in his sleep between the night of
Wednesday June 8th and Thursday 9th June. We are still awaiting the
inquest but as there was no cause of death found we believe he died of
Sudden Adult Death. We, his parents, were on a 10-day, 24 year
belated honeymoon in St Lucia at the time of his death.
He was healthy and very happy, especially that
day. He had rushed home from work to make sure someone was in to
sign for his Glastonbury ticket. The ticket arrived at around 5pm.
We only know this as he was chatting on msn to friends saying how ecstatic
he was to have them in his hand. His msn named had been changed to
`I have my ticket in my hand'. The msn messaging went on until
around 7.45pm. The last message to someone was `I am off for a bit...be
back later'. more
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Alaina Taylor
Alaina was born in 1990 and was a lovely
healthy baby of 9lb 3oz. The delivery was fast, with no pain relief
- in fact the nurses were stunned as I laughed though most of it.
Fifty minutes later she was here. From day one she wanted to see and
listen - always wanting to know about things. As she got older she
knew facts we did not, and would put us to shame when she knew stuff.
She is the youngest of three. Kelly is
her older sister who will be twenty in March, and Craig, her brother, was
eighteen in November. Me and Carl have been happily married for
twenty one years, and we live in a new four bedroom property that we have
made our home. Alaina has her own room and loved to go and use her
computer and put on loud music as soon as she came home from school.
We always had our evening meal together as a family, and we would talk for
ages, laughing about the day's events or past events.
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Chris Rice
My son Chris died on Monday 26th September
2005 aged 18 years. He was at Hengistbury Head, where he taught
sailing and kayaking. He also coached swimming for Bournemouth
Dolphins. He loved working with children and was an inspiration to
all whose lives he touched. Chris achieved in 18 years what many
would not achieve in 80 years.
Chris was a county level swimmer, and was
diagnosed with HCM at 10 years of age. We were told that there was
no cure. They tried Beta-Blockers for a time, but they made Chris
very tired and seemed to give him symptoms. Chris was monitored
six-monthly at Southampton Hospital, until he was 17 years old. We
went every six months, and my lovely placid son would turn into an
argumentative monster every time. He used to say, "Its pointless.
We all say the same thing every time - is it any better? Any worse?
No, see you in six months." more
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Stephen Ruggier
My 17-year-old son Stephen Peter Ruggier was a
fit, healthy lad who was looking forward to becoming 18 - which was only
twenty days away when he died. He died on 4th October 2004, and was
going to celebrate his 18th birthday on the 24th October.
He was always happy and full of life.
He was training to be a mechanic, and had just started his second and
final year at college. He had already achieved his Level 1, which we
are all very proud of.
It all started on the Saturday morning when
Stephen said he did not feel well. On the Sunday the doctor came and
said that Stephen had tonsilitis, and prescribed him with penicillin.
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Sarah Jane Johnson
Sarah died at the age of 29 years on the 18th
of August 2000, of an undetected heart condition called Arrhythmogenic
Cardiomyopathy. To see her you'd have never thought there'd be
anything wrong with her. She was so fit and active and went to keep fit at
the gym and also did yoga. She loved life, and she lived life to the full.
She achieved so much in her life. She
gained 9 "O" levels, as well as "A" levels, and went on to Birmingham
University. At the time of her death, she was an office manager for
a company called P.D.C. Brush in Crewe.
Sarah loved watching her beloved Arsenal
Football team, and also drawing, sketching, and painting - and she had an
"A" level in Art. She loved listening to many of her CDs and singing
to them, and even did a few karaokes and won some prizes as well.
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Kay Wilson
It’s now been
eleven months since our daughter Kay left us. We do not have to tell
you how we feel, only that she along with her surviving sister Kelly, was
one half of our life’s work and soul purpose for living. We still do
not understand why she died save the medical verdict was Myocarditis,
underlying cause unknown.
She passed
away on the 26th April 2004 one day before her 19th
Birthday. The previous evening was a celebration with her friends
for her birthday when she returned home just before midnight.
Five hours later she collapsed on her bed and died instantly without
warning. Medical reports indicate no alcohol, and no drugs - cause
of death unknown, and all our efforts to revive her were futile.
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James Kelly
This photo of James was taken a few weeks before he passed away and the photo of him with his younger brother and sisters was actually taken the day before he collapsed.
As you can see from it, he looks very fit and healthy and appears to have nothing wrong with him. I am so happy I took the children to have the photographs taken that day, as I was in two minds whether to go or put it off until a later date as, but for some reason I decided I may
as well go.
The 5 of us had a wonderful day, getting their pictures taken (me getting hit with a beach ball and other items to keep the children smiling) and going for lunch. James also told me a few things I would never have known
if we had not gone out that day, e.g. how he liked the feeling of polystyrene (or as he called it polyester) and dipping his chips into ice-cream.
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